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Ingrid Bergman once said, “A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous”. There's some truth to that. There are many times in my life when a kiss said more than words could ever say.

If sex was a colour, what colour would it be? There have been times in my life when it was white. White for love, white for purity, that wonderful music-swelling-in-the-background, proper camera lighting, young-lovers-well-met, joyous, this-is-the-love-of-my-life kind of sex. Just like in the movies. Don’t let anyone tell you it doesn’t happen. It can. I was lucky enough to find out...

Well, okay, perhaps we shouldn’t go quite that far. Still, I’ve enjoyed her My Messy Bedroom site for the last little while, and her latest article, Feeling Fine, is hilarious. I think most women would get a hoot out of it. Guys might learn a little something they didn’t know, too. She’s talking about orgasm. Not the back-bending, ear-splitting, easy-to-get-as-a-cold kind...

It’s been a year since I asked my husband to leave. Within a few weeks, I’ll be putting our divorce into motion. The past year has been a dazzling whirlwind of changes and experiences. And after the drought that was my marriage, many of those experiences had to do with men. I’ve dated nearly constantly for the past year, meeting and spending time with some really wonderful men...

Picked up a great little book last week called the Sex Lover’s Book of Lists. Just a whole bunch of trivia, really. Hundreds of lists about everything and anything sexual. I just finished the first chapter – History of Sex – and though I already knew a fair amount of it, I came to a realization. In the 19th century particularly, masturbation was bad, wrong, and believed to be...

When laws become ridiculous, they’re repealed. Or at least, they should be. Case in point: in Arizona, it’s still against the law to have oral sex, anal sex, or (even more ridiculous) any non-procreational sex act. Hmm. Instead of removing these items from the books, the politicians down there are saying it would cost too much to have the law repealed. Or somesuch. Read the whole...

We all get too serious about ourselves sometimes. I’m an offender, just as bad (if not worse) than your average Jill. But laughter has also saved me in times of stress or emotional upheaval. I’m naturally a smart-ass, as some of you may have guessed already. This facet instrinsic to my nature just comes out, bubbles to the surface when I’m getting too stressed, or too upset. I...

Kids are curious about sex. Every kid you know is curious about it. You, as a child, were likely curious about it. I was very curious about it, from a very young age. I remember hearing these words – dick cunt fuck and learning what power they held. Parents would freak when you said it. Classmates would giggle. What power!And like many kids, I experimented here and there as a child...

Ellen Fein, one of the authors of The Rules, is getting a divorce. This event occurs (not without irony) as her newest book, The Rules III: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work, hits the shelves. If you’re not familiar with The Rules, look it up online. I’m not going to deign to link to their web site here, but look around and you’ll find it. It’s a book for...

Carol Queen shares some thoughts about being sex positive in this month’s issue of Good Vibes magazine. She says – if I may quote her: If sex-positivity is Utopian–and in a way, it is–we have to be willing to envision the world we want, wherever we are, and start figuring out how to create it: who our allies and appropriate partners are, how to challenge the internal and...